Last week I was on the BBC Victoria Derbyshire show talking about how I was listened to by my consultant when I opted for an elective caesarean when I was pregnant with Archie and had a really positive experience at Hillingdon Hospital.
Before I tell you about my elective caesarean I will tell you why I wanted one in the first place. In February 2010 I had Oscar at 37 weeks by emergency caesarean after being in labour for three days and Oscar’s heart rate dipping. After having Oscar at 1.58am on a Monday morning I stayed in the next day and then discharged myself on the Tuesday as I felt well enough to go home. Afterwards I was adamant that when we had another baby I would opt for a VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean). After that I went on to having two miscarriages, one in 2012 and 2013 and then had to give birth to a baby in 2014 at 17 and a half weeks. I was prescribed 150mg of aspirin and when I fell pregnant with Archie in March 2014 I took it everyday.
As you can imagine I was nervous the whole way through my pregnancy. At one of my first consultant appointments at 16 weeks I was very clear that I wanted a elective caesarean as I didn’t really want to go back on the delivery suite after the experience we had had only a few months before. I walked out of the delivery suite with no baby and would of done anything not to have had to go back there.
My consultant listened to me, explained the risks and told me if I changed my mind at any time throughout the rest of my pregnancy that that was fine. I honestly couldn’t have wished for a more understanding consultant. As the pregnancy went from week to week I still wanted to go with an elective caesarean as in a silly way after loosing the three babies before and having no control over any of it it was my only bit of control that I could choose just how I wanted to have my baby.
When I read articles saying women that have had a caesarean are cheated out of giving birth or haven’t “properly” given birth it does annoy me. I carried my babies and however they were delivered I gave birth to them! I think people should keep their opinions to themselves and however a mother chooses to have their baby is their business not the rest of the Worlds to judge. We should be supporting each other as women and parents not criticising one another.
So in December 2014 I had Archie by elective caesarean. I also took part in a enhanced recovery course which meant that I had Archie on the Monday at 9.32am and was discharged at 11am the following day. I was also allowed to drive after 9 days so I was back to normal in no time, taking Oscar to school. I am quite a proactive person and like to just get on with things so being able to get up and get home quicker was great for me. Having an elective caesarean this time around was quite strange as you walk in absolutely normal and within an hour I was in theatre having my epidural put in and then Archie was here. This time around I had the curtain dropped and got to see him being born which was amazing!
I wanted to share my story as I know that the NHS make mistakes but at Hillingdon Hospital I couldn’t have paid for better care, from the support they gave me after loosing the babies and then in my pregnancy through to the birth they were fantastic.